Fighting for Life!

We are excited to let everyone know about an organization that we believe gives the best hope of saving the lives of babies who are yet to be born.  A friend of ours from our college days started an organization called Online for Life that has the goal of ending abortion in America.  We believe they have the right plan and God is lining up the resources to make that happen.  Please check out their website, as well as their new effort, Rise Up for Life .  Partner with us and this great organization to end abortion in America!

Online For Life

When Does Relevance Make You Irrelevant?

As a pastor of a main line church, one of the challenges is relating to the masses while being true to the gospel.  I have been on both sides of this issue, trying to be flashy and engaging, as well as avoiding everything that might hint at being of the world.  Below is an article that I came across that was posted by the NCFIC on their website.  I do not know the author or the group that wrote the article, but I appreciate the warning.  Read the article and let me know what you think: Evangelicalism’s Addiction to Novelty.

Loving Jill as Christ Loved the Church

I preached a few weeks ago from Ephesians 5 where Paul talks about loving your wife as Christ loved the church.  I have read this passage countless times.  I have counseled men to love their wives using this passage.  I have led several marriage Bible studies with Jill covering this passage.  I am embarrassed to say this, but I never really stopped to think about how Christ loved the church.  I always moved on to the rest of the passage, which is powerful in and of itself.  I have thought about the washing of water by the word, loving her as my own body, and the clear representation of Christ’s relationship with the church in our marriages.  But for some reason, I never really dug into how Christ loved the church.

So early one morning I did a quick skim of the gospel of John, asking the question, “How did Christ love the church?”  Here is some of what I found:

Jesus cleansed the Temple, purifying it from the sin that was so prevalent (chapters 1-2).

Jesus constantly directed the church’s attention to eternity (6:27).

Jesus was willing to lead through rejection (6:41ff).

Jesus was gracious (chapter 8).

Jesus was a shepherd (chapter 10).

Jesus served (chapter 13).

Jesus revealed the Father (14:7ff).

Jesus prayed for the church (chapter 17).

Jesus was strong in the face of criticism (chapter 18ff).

Jesus  was willing to be punished for the sins of the church (19:30).

Jesus forgave and lead into reconciliation (21:15).

I also thought about Philippians 2, the great demonstration of Jesus’ humility.

What an image of love, and this is just a first blush through one gospel.  I have so much to learn about how to love Jill, and she has been so patient with me as I learn.  I am grateful.  I am humbled.  Father, help me to love Jill as Christ loved the church.

Beware, lest you forget…

How easy we forget…When we become comfortable, when life gets easy, we get complacent and forget. When we get busy, managing our lives and schedules, keeping up with all the demands of the day, we forget. The Bible makes clear, we can never forget.


Deuteronomy 6 is one of the greatest chapters in all the Old Testament. The beginning of the chapter implores fathers to teach the commandments to their children all the time. It tells us to teach them to our children when we get up, when we lay down, when we walk along the way and when we sit in our house. We are to teach them all the time. This is discipleship.


But to make the point more clear, we are to teach them diligently. The Hebrew word for teach diligently literally means to sharpen. We are to sharpen these truths into our children. It is an image of one working with a blade or point, perfecting it through continuous sharpening. We are to continuously sharpen our children in the ways of God.


But the chapter goes on to warn the Israelites. They are about to go into the promised land and they will have victory over their enemies. The Lord promises the victory. But there is a danger they will face that will be far more subtle, and actually more dangerous, than those who live in the cities. In verses 10-12 we read, “So it shall be, when the Lord your God brings you into the land of which He swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, to give you large and beautiful cities which you did not build, houses full of all good things, which you did not fill, hewn-out wells which you did not dig, vineyards and olive trees which you did not plant – when you have eaten and are full – then beware, lest you forget the Lord who brought you out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage.” As I read these words I think of the church in America today. It seems we are comfortable, bellies full, lives full, schedules full, but we have forgotten.


Some will say we have not forgotten, but we have. We have forgotten the battles of the great reformers who shed blood to protect and establish theological truths and traditions that we take for granted. We have forgotten the wisdom of the older generations and have cast them off to be discarded. We have forgotten in our own nation the sacrifices of those who risked their lives to create a nation based on freedom. We have forgotten those who have since died protecting that very freedom. We have forgotten the great providence of the Lord our God. Beware!


We need to beware, remembering all that God has done for us. We need to remember and make sure our children remember. The method given in this passage to help them to not forget is incredibly simple. It is at the beginning and at the end of the chapter. At the beginning we are told to teach the commandments, statutes and judgments, and at the end of the chapter we are told that when our children ask what the meaning of them is, we are to tell them a story. Not just any story, but the story. The great story of the providence of God to lead Israel out of bondage and into the promised land. It was a story they needed to hear and remember. It was a story that would remind those who heard, as well as those who told, all that God had done for them. It was a story that would help them to not forget the Lord their God.


We need to teach our children, sharpen them to a perfect point, and send them out as arrows shot from the bow of a warrior. We need to prepare our children to be dominion warriors, taking ground for the kingdom of God. But we need to continue to tell them the stories, not just of Scripture, but of our own lives, what God has done for us, our family, our nation, the church, etc. We need to tell them over and over lest we and they forget the Lord our God. We cannot get complacent. We cannot get too comfortable. We cannot forget the Lord our God.

A Weekend in Virginia

At the beginning of August our family went to Virginia for a few days.  Our purpose for going was to attend the Family Encouragement Weekend.  I will say more about that later.  While we were there we had the opportunity to also see some of God’s most amazing handiwork.  We visited Luray Caverns and were stunned by the majestic beauty of simple rock.  For those who have known me, you know I love caving and have been on and led dozens of caving trips over the years.  I enjoy the physical challenge of caves, the other worldliness of caves, and the chance to explore a part of God’s creation few ever get to see.  I had never been in a commercial cave until this visit.  I was amazed!

We were blessed to see pillars of dripstone 60 feet high.  We saw walls that looked like they were melting because they are covered with flowstone.  There was also an organ connected to mechanical hammers that would tap a stalagmite to produce the sound.  All of the sound from the organ came from the cave itself. It was amazing, and the cave is plays host to many weddings each year.Bell mechanism for the organ July and August 2010 022

But maybe the most amazing thing that struck Jill and me was a shallow lake.  This lake was only 18 inches at it’s deepest point.  The water is so still that the reflection of the ceiling above it is nearly perfect.  Jill and I had the same thought as we stood, gazing into this pool; “For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face.  Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.” (1Cor. 13:12)  As perfect as the image was, it was not the original.  As well as we might be able to know God now, we will never know Him fully this side of glory.  I look forward to the day when I will see Him face to face and know Him fully, even as I am fully known.

 Sarah goofing around Joel enjoying the commentary on the headset Sophie, Josiah and Jacob by the reflecting pool Lake reflecting the ceiling

The actual purpose of our trip to Virginia was the Family Encouragement Weekend.  This is an event we attended last year for the first time and are committed to making it a part of our August as long as it is offered.  Three families work together to make this weekend all that it is.  They are the Wilkes family, the Neely family and the Staddon family.  If you would like to see pictures from the weekend or read other testimonies of God’s work, click on the underlined names to go to their websites.  We are incredibly grateful to all of these families for making this weekend encouraging, challenging and edifying for us as well as all of the other families that attended.

The weekend is structured rather simply.  There were speakers who shared truths from the Scriptures with practical applications, as well as real life confirming testimonies from their own families.  There were times for families to gather with other families for prayer.  There were games for the kids while the dads got together to ask questions and pray.  This is a weekend focused on encouraging families to carry on in the struggle to raise up godly children in this world.  We were incredibly encouraged and challenged to do just that.

The most remarkable thing to me again this year is who the speakers are.  These men would not be given a stage or a hearing in any leadership conference.  They do not come with worldly credentials that would make anyone say, “Wow, I need to listen to this guy.”  What they bring is a testimony of a family living for God, children who love God, and generations following after them who are giving their lives to build the kingdom of God.  When I think of these men I think of Paul, writing to the Corinthians, and challenging their views of credentials:

“Do we begin again to commend ourselves?  Or do we need, as some others, epistles of commendation to you or letters of commendation from you?  You are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read by all men: clearly you are an epistle of Christ, ministered by us, written not with ink, but by the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of flesh, that is, of the heart.” –2Corinthians 3:1-3

What I am saying is that these men have the greatest credentials any man can have.  The Spirit of the living God has written epistles on the hearts of their children, and their children are writing their own epistles on the hearts of others, all to the glory of God.  I do not say this to embarrass them, though I am sure they will be.  I say this to encourage all of us to look beyond the surface, look beyond the degrees, look beyond the job.  Look at the heart and look at the fruit of a man’s life.  I am honored to sit under the teaching of men like these.  Thank you.

If you would like to listen to the mp3’s from the Virginia FEW weekend, as well as the FEW weekend held in North Carolina in March, just click here.

Leading Family Devotions…Getting Practical

I have expressed many times the challenge to fathers to lead their family in daily family devotions. I know this is a challenge and I also know that most men in the church are not doing this. There are many reasons men are intimidated when it comes to taking on the spiritual leadership of their homes, but I do not want to get into that at this time. What I want to do is to share with you, men, how I lead our family devotional time each evening in hopes that it will encourage you to lead your family as well.

When we began doing family devotions it was awkward and challenging. I was uncomfortable, not communicating well with the kids, and they were not enjoying sitting for long. I decided we would read through a book of the Bible. We would gather together after dinner was cleaned up and read a passage. I would ask questions, trying to be practical and help them understand how the passage related to their lives. It was challenging, but we were struggling through it together. We would follow that time with prayer, and then we would work on a passage we were memorizing together.


This process often took an hour, which we learned was way too much. I wanted this to be a priority, but I needed to be more realistic. I needed to find ways to allow the kids to be more engaged, have more fun, and shorten our time without sacrificing what I wanted to accomplish. I needed to be creative, which is not my strong suite.


Jill helped a lot with all of this, giving me ideas, helping me communicate with the kids and encouraging their participation. We began to act out passages, being silly at times, trying to make the time together more interesting. Over the winter, when it got dark early, we were reading through Mark and came to the transfiguration. To try to capture the light shining from Jesus we turned off the lights and put on silly glasses that were painted with glow-in-the-dark paint. Is this what Jesus looked like? They knew it wasn’t, but they remember that night, and they remember that story. We are currently reading through Genesis and are in the middle of the Joseph story. Different children are reading the different characters in the story. When Pharaoh chooses Joseph to lead the nation he places his ring, a robe, and a gold chain on Joseph. So the person reading Pharaoh’s lines did the same to the person reading Joseph’s lines. She put a ring, a multi-colored towel, and a…oops, I forgot to get a necklace…oh well, on her brother. They remember the story.


When we pray, each child has a journal. The ones who cannot read have a picture journal. Each one has a day and they lead us in prayer. We are also able to give them updates on how God is answering prayer, which encourages them in their prayers all the more. It is a powerful lesson for all of us, and a constant reminder of God’s faithfulness.


We also do Scripture memory. We have changed the way we do this recently, and it is working great. I found a simple Scripture memory system that I introduced to the family that takes just a few minutes each day and allows passages to stick quickly and be repeated often. To learn more about that you can go to


You may read this article and still be intimidated. I want to encourage you to simply try something. You don’t have to do all of this. Just start with something. We now take about 40 minutes for all of this. It is an investment that pays dividends every day. Our children are hiding God’s Word in their hearts, they are experiencing God answering prayer, and they are learning how the Scriptures apply to their lives. These are critical life-long lessons for all of us. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Prov. 22:6). Start training, men.